Are you tired of asking your partner and explaining what you need, and receive no
response? Are you frustrated by feeling that your needs are not considered? Do you fear
that your relationship will limit your personal growth? Do you feel that there is love, but
also that his love catches you and wears you down?

Many people, particularly women, seek therapy for symptoms like depression and anxiety, but without clear awareness of what causes them. Many blame themselves for not being “good enough, ” and not understanding to their partners.The common denominator of their mental health challenge is the minimization and invisibility caused by the oppression in in their exchanges with their partner, as opposed to receiving encouragement and support for their personal and professional development. This oppression will lead to diminishment and limiting their decisions through silences,
gestures, humiliations or even physical violence, while they protect themselves by
assuming a role that is lower than that of his/her partner.

Jerks are not always easy to identify; they tend to confuse their partners with effusive
displays of love that cover up their high doses of control and abuse. We talk about the
jerks, those men who make people fall in love with sweet words, flowers and attention and who, little by little, display their crude, aggressive and even dangerous ways of “loving”. They destroy self-esteem and make their prey feel guilty for their behaviors.

This book is a guide that speaks to the person trapped in a pitiful relationship. To reflect on your daily life and identify the characteristics of an abusive relationship, leading her by the hand to recognize the beliefs that trap her, to distinguish the patterns that she repeats, and to put into practice techniques that will allow her to get out of the abuse,
recover, and bloom again.