Humanities & Social Sciences
September 2022
50 Ways To Leave Your Ehemann (50 Ways to Leave Your Man)
Nautilus Flugschrift
by Jacinta Nandi
How to Leave Your Man: Why it’s so hard for mothers to leave their partnersShe’s finally done it! The „World’s Worst Housewife" has left her partner and moved with her two childreninto her own apartment, or as she puts it: been gentrified away to the outskirts of Berlin. Jacinta Nandi hadalways expected that as a single mom, a whole other host of problems would be awaiting her. The mainproblems are financial: the truth is, it’s really hard for ordinary mothers - with ordinary incomes - to leavetheir partners and set up their own lives.Why does society make it so hard for women to leave men? Could it be that women in general, and mothersin particular, are not expected to be free? And if they do decide to fight for their freedom, they have to paya high price for it.Jacinta Nandi writes about slut-shaming and pity, the pressure to constantly justify yourself and society’spesky double standards. She shows us that it’s not only the violent relationships that are shitty, that beingtold what a great dad your ex is isn’t always helpful and why Isaac Newton was certainly not a single parent.She asks why married women show a lack of solidarity by baking ridiculously good cakes, and what it meansto be a single mom by choice. Why do mothers always have to be perfect while fathers are somehow alwaysgood enough? What has to change in order for mothers to no longer feel forced to stay in relationshipsthat are not serving them? Leave your husband – things can only get better!
